I was married at 21 to a perfect man who provided me with love, security and above all happiness for almost 30 years. Two children both of which excelled at school then left to pursue further education at distant universities. My future with Brian was going to be full of walks with our dogs, lazy holidays and time to enjoy the rest of our lives together after giving all that we had to our children.
The man above had other ideas for my future and almost without warning changed one Sunday morning when he told me he was in love with another woman. The affair had been going on for over a year, all those late nights away on business I should have suspected but I didn't. Six months has passed since the day he walked out and life is great! When you get to a certain age dating or senior dating, as we are too often categorised, is different. While at 55 I would not consider myself old but the days of being whistled at as I walk down the street only now happen when I am with my daughter.
Finding a partner who shares my zest for life and those little foibles' I have developed was always going to be a challenge... my new Mr Right was not going to knock on my door I had to proactively find him. After what seemed like endless dinner parties provided by my friends who with good intentions tried to fix me up with every single male over 50 with a pulse, I decided that it was time that I took the initiative. So welcome to the world of the silver surfer, forget all those young testosterone driven young bucks I needed a more mature date that possessed both wisdom and sophistication.
Scrolling through the many senior dating sites on offer I finally decided to stick with one that seemed to offer the various components that I wanted to put my toe in the water. Having joined for free I was able to search by area or age. Have reduced my "wish" list to a few that caught my eye the next step was to send a wink to lure my suitor into an initial conversation. I waited, I waited and waited but I did finally start to get a few replies when I realised that I needed to widen the net.
If anyone had told me to go onto a mature or senior dating site a year ago I would have laughed. These places are for weirdos... to the contrary, they are not. I have not found the perfect partner yet but then again I am not in a rush. What I have found is companionship and friends who are interested in me and my life and are willing to listen. I thought my life was over when my husband left me for a younger women but actually it was just the end of a chapter.
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